Saturday, September 21, 2013

Tools for Battling the Baby Blues or Postpartum Depression - Part 2

As anyone who's read my blog knows, after I had Maggie, I struggled for a long time with postpartum depression. After struggling with that for so long, I am nervous to be faced with that again. Hopefully, I know myself better this time and will be able to articulate my needs to other people better than I was able to the last time.

I have about two and a half weeks (give or take) until our next little one makes his/her debut. In thinking back on my postpartum days with Maggie and talking with another friend, I have come up with things that I am planning on doing in the post-newborn days when the "newness" of having a tiny baby has worn off and the reality of the weariness that I feel has set in.

Post-Newborn Days:

1. Accept help from people who offer: I have a lot of great people in my life who like to help. I am one of those people who doesn't like to accept help, though. I don't think that's a particularly good trait. I think it's probably an American trait. We like to "prove" that we can do it. That is just silly sometimes. It does not benefit my family for me to not accept help when it is offered. In going along with this, I need to make myself easy to help. I plan on making a list after Bean is born of ways that I can specifically tell people how they can help. 

2. Take turmeric capsules: This is something that I listed in the last post on baby blues and postpartum depression. I can't stress the difference that this made when I struggled with postpartum depression with Maggie. I take capsules, but the turmeric can be used in cooking, too, or a tablespoon can be mixed in a glass of orange juice. 

3. Filling my mind with truth: Besides reading and meditating on Scripture every day, I have been compiling a list of articles, blog posts, and books that I plan to read. Here are some of them:
- Mission of Motherhood: Touching Your Child's Heart for Eternity by Sally Clarkson
- Ministry of Motherhood: Following Christ's Example in Reaching the Hearts of Our Children by Sally Clarkson
- Loving the Little Years: Motherhood In the Trenches by Rachel Jankovic
How to Survive the First Month - at My Devising
I've Got the Baby Blues - at My Devising

4. Accept the aspects of my personality that I cannot change: I do believe that the Holy Spirit helps us overcome circumstances in spite of our personalities. I also believe that God didn't make us all the same way. It's okay if I'm not the fun "Pinterest Mom." It's okay if I prefer to stay home with my kids as opposed to taking them out to 500 play dates. This article at The Gospel Coalition about introverted mothers is such a great summary of caring for yourself as an introverted mother. It was very enlightening to realize that certain feelings that I had about motherhood were a result of my introversion. I can't change being an introvert, but I can be aware of the ways that being an introvert hinders certain aspects of being a mother. 

5. Talk to doctor about anti-depressant: This is fairly self-explanatory. If the cloud lingers, I don't plan on waiting 9 months for it to just disappear. Life is too short and I end up missing too much of my babies' lives. 

Have you ever struggled with postpartum depression? What are some of the ways you dealt with it?

1 comment:

  1. SO proud of you!!
    Add to the list: have a handful of people I can talk to about the dark days. :) <3