Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Being Teachable

On Sunday night, I was in a group of teens to 30 year olds talking about discipleship in the church. And how it doesn't exist in a lot of local churches. And how the people who are supposed to be discipling us have never been discipled themselves. When the body of Christ doesn't do their job, multiple areas suffer. Things don't work as they're supposed to. The church ends up with generations of immature believers. I could make excuses for all the reasons I don't disciple someone, but all of them would be just that - excuses. When really, there is no excuse. The joyful burden of discipleship is placed on me by Scripture, not based on how old I am or how "together" I've got it. It is my responsibility to disciple someone.

However, I've noticed another trend among the Millennial generation. We don't listen. We aren't teachable. We are wise in our own eyes. I've had several women approach me and say, "I've considered approaching you before, but I honestly didn't think someone in your generation would be interested in anything that I have to say." How often do I bristle when someone older than me makes an innocent comment about my child? How often do I take offense and then brush it off, disregarding anything they say? I'm not talking "mommy wars" stuff. There is a competition, it seems, among moms today to make sure that their way of child-rearing is held as the pinnacle of perfection.

I'm talking about a woman who is older than me coming to me from a place of experience and wisdom and saying, "Consider stopping what you're doing," or "Consider doing something different." A Titus 2 relationship. An older woman, fulfilling what Scripture calls her to do, and helping me learn how to love my husband and my children well (Titus 2:4.) An older woman who has been there and tells me, "Consider picking your baby up and rocking her right now while she's crying. She'll only be little for a little while." Or "Consider the fact that you might not want your toddler sleeping in bed with you and you should have your little one sleep in his/her own bed." Or "Go on a date with your husband, without your child. She'll be fine with a trusted caregiver."

I sometimes take wisdom like this and reject it, thinking "they've never had THIS baby before and they're not married to the man I'M married to." There is room for us to make our own decisions for our own families, but consider who God has placed in your life and consider the wisdom that experience has given them. Their suggestion might not be right for you in EVERY instance, but if you're never taking anyone's advice, the problem could be you.

Most Millennials I know in the church want to be discipled. Let's make sure that we're ABLE to be discipled. We need to humble ourselves and, in respect and esteem for those wiser than us, ask questions and be willing to receive whatever answer they give.

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